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Your Marriage and Funeral Celebrant is Dally Messenger III of Docklands, Victoria

I am Located at:Dally Messenger the celebrant
Docklands Vic 3008 Australia

And my contact details are:
Mo:
 +61-411-717-303
Email: dallymessenger@mac.com

My Qualifications are:
Graduate Diploma of Celebrancy 
Librarianship: Post Graduate Diploma (Melbourne Uni)
Licentiate: College of Teachers (London)
MA Prelim (La Trobe and Monash)
Bachelor of Theology (Sydney)

My Celebrancy Qualifications are:
Certificate IV in Marriage Celebrancy
Certificate IV in Celebrancy
Graduate Diploma of Celebrancy
 (includes Diplomas in Marriage, Funeral and General Celebrancy)

For my Celebrancy qualification I was Trained by:
International College of Celebrancy

My Associations were - and some still are:

Dally 1Foundation Secretary: Association of Civil Marriage Celebrants of Australia
Foundation President: Funeral Celebrants Association of Australia.
Foundation President and Life Member: Australian Federation of Civil Celebrants.
Member: International College of Celebrancy Alumni and Friend

 

I Provide the Following Ceremonies: 
Marriage 
Commitments 
Renewal of Vows 
Name-Giving 
Funeral (including State Funerals and similar VIP Funerals) 
Adolescent Rites of Passage 
Coming-of-Age 
Life Changes Other Rituals and Celebrations 
Community Ceremonies

About Me: 
My current role is as Principal of the International College of Celebrancy
My contributions to Civil Celebrancy revolve around my authorship and chief editorship of the ceremony resource book “Ceremonies and Celebrations” (Hachette Livre - Sydney 1998), now in its fourth edition, third printing).

from The Little Prince by Antoine de Sainte Exupery. 
“What is a rite?” asked the Little Prince. 
“Those also are actions too often neglected,” said the fox. 
They are what make one day different from other days, 
one hour from other hours.”

Dally Messenger25 Reasons why you should choose me as your wedding celebrant.

1. I give you the best value for money.

2. I am a genuine professional. I believe in your ceremony as an important event for you and an important event for the community. I try to get it right under every aspect.

3. I come with a skilled assistant so you get to skilled persons for the price of one.

4. I am well-qualified. I hold a Graduate Diploma in Celebrancy from the International College of Celebrancy. This Diploma is the highest one issued. This diploma covers Marriage Celebrancy, Funeral Celebrancy, and General Celebrancy. I also have several tertiary qualifications in the Humanities.

5. I am well experienced. I have been a full-time celebrant to 35 years. I have the necessary maturity. I embrace the principle of Kaizen. I learn something or re-learn something from every ceremony.

6. You have complete choice of ceremony - I only plead with you to change if my experience tells me you are heading for disaster.

7. I supply you with resources - usually my book Ceremonies and Celebrations or It’s Your Wedding - these contain example ceremonies, readings and poems, many examples of vows etc.

8. I encourage you to create, or I create with you, or I create for you, a personal story - the story of your relationship to the point of this your wedding. It forms part of the introduction to the ceremony.

9. I encourage the creation of the Vows by you as a Compact.You mutually promise each other that which you will wish the other partner to promise you. I have a mechanism to assist you to get this important Compact right !

10. I advise you in regard to music - live or recorded.

11 . I am esteemed by my clients as evidenced by hundreds of unsolicited testimonials. (see column on left)

12. I have a really good quality Mipro sound system, I have a “Madonna” microphone for the celebrant and a separate on-stand microphone for the readers. The Mipro system is also ideal for recorded music (CDs/iPod/iPhone) and has a really good 50 Watt sound.

13. I believe in a rehearsal on site. Rehearsals mean extra travel and extra time spent by the celebrant but I think they are essential. This is not an extra but included in my fee.

14. At the rehearsal I ask the readers to practice their reading (pace and pronunciation) and as most generally in a ceremony go far too fast and lose power and impact.

15. I encourage singing together by the guests. And I know the procedures which ensure this can be done smoothly and happily.

16. Similarly, I encourage reading of poetry by all present.

17. I do not do too many marriages. This means I cannot give full attention to each one. I give every wedding with which I am entrusted full focus.

18. As far as possible I dress to fit in with your marriage ceremony.

19. I ensure that you are presented with a certificate that is laser printed with an acceptable script, which is worthy of the event.

20. I am skilled at preparing all the legally required marriage documents. I guide you through the necessary legalities with a minimum of fuss.

21. I register your wedding with the Department of Births Deaths, and Marriages promptly after completion.

22. I am available to you after the wedding to discuss any after-wedding questions.

23. I am held in high regard by my peers (or most of them !) See Dally Messenger III

24. I have a sense of humour but I am not a "joker".

25. I am conscientious and responsible.

Dally Messenger civil celebrantMy Attitude To Ceremony

I have tried since I became a celebrant to hold to, and develop, the original ideals of Lionel Murphy’s commission to the civil celebrant. Each marriage ceremony should be unique to each couple. (In over 5000 weddings I can honestly say I have never delivered two ceremonies, which are the same.)

The substance of the ceremony, and especially the vows, should be totally authentic for the couple. The celebrant should be trained and educated in his role. The celebrant should provide the very best guidance, advice, and most of all sufficient resources so that the couple can create (or co-create) a ceremony the memory of which will give them a strengthening memory and lifelong satisfaction.

The celebrant should advise his clients of the offence given to guests when ceremonies are too short (and dry). (When we were first appointed the public was appalled at the 2 minute ceremonies then delivered by the Registry offices – things are different now !) .

Kaizen, Ceremony and Personalisation

Like all graduates of the International College of Celebrancy I attempt to live by the principle of Kaizen – namely, that every ceremony I deliver is a little bit better than the last one. I have observed, and I believe, that what makes Australian Civil Celebrant ceremonies the very best in the world is our techniques of personalization – e.g. the story of the couple’s personal journey, personalized vows, personally chosen and introduced poetry, music, and symbols.

Secular Spirituality

I keep in mind that my prime constituency are persons without religious affiliation – secular people. This does not mean that my clientele is not spiritual. On the contrary – in my clients I constantly observe a wonderful secular spirituality – the best ideals, moral principles, dedication to goodness, and devotion to relationships – which is inferior to none.

A lot more could be said - but you get the drift.

Fees and Value:

Celebrancy is one area of life you really get what you pay for. I am not talking about myself here – nothing personal – but the best investment for your wedding or any other ceremony - should be in the celebrant and the ceremony. The one area in which you should not try to “save”.

Weddings: $990 (plus travel for long distances). Includes Mipro PA system and operatorDally 6

FUNERALS 
Funerals: Please get one thing straight. There is no such thing as a short cut to a good funeral. I cling to the idealistic notion that a worthy life cannot be dismissed by a one-size-fits-all funeral done quite often in a few minutes. I also believe that the funeral ceremony is the most important part of the funeral. I also want to make it clear that I believe that $180 (the fixed fee of the funeral directors in most states) is exploitation.(Funeral Directors control the fees because people go to them first and take their advice). In most states of Australia the treatment of civil celebrants is sheer exploitation.

Funeral Fees: Victoria

In Victoria the Funeral Directors fixed ceiling fee hovers at about $440. There are some wonderful Funeral Celebrants who do a very good job for this small fee i.e. the Funeral Directors’ decided fee. See Lynnette Olsen DipFC (Vic), Trish Bainbridge DipFC (Vic), Lesley Bawden (Vic), Peter Downie (ACT), Genevieve Messenger BA DipMC (Vic), Remi Messenger DipFC (Vic), Yvonne Werner DipFC (Vic), Victoria Spence (NSW)

I usually spend between 30 - 40 hours, I can’t remember the last time I spent less than 20 hours - preparing a Funeral ceremony. Eulogy, appropriate readings, symbols and photos, and music - all take care, preparation time and checking back to make sure it is right. It is academic, physical and emotional work. In my opinion the only fair way to pay a Funeral Celebrant is by an hourly rate.

My fee is $190 hour. ($1900 to $3800 or more per Funeral - ball park figure). 
For State Funerals or equivalent $400 per hour.


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